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How to Break Up With Someone

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How to Break Up With Someone If breaking up with someone were easy, I wouldn’t be writing this article. The question isn't so much how to break up with someone but how to do it in a way that's not rife with sadness, awkwardness, and messy miscommunications. No easy feat. There’s no such thing as the “perfect breakup,” but if you’re the one bearing the bad news, there are a number of steps you can take before and during that dreaded conversation to make the experience as healthy as possible for both you and your partner. Here, a therapist and a psychologist share advice for how to kindly and effectively break up with someone. 1. Make sure you actually want to break up. Before you break up with your partner, make sure that you actually want to end the relationship. “A breakup is something that you want to do once you've thought about it over time,” says  Rebecca Hendrix , L.M.F.T, a psychotherapist in New York City. If you’re having doubts and concerns a...
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5 Signs of a Healthy Relationship, According to Psychologists

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5 Signs of a Healthy Relationship, According to Psychologists Most of us have become so exhausted by the modern dating world that the signs of a healthy relationship probably don’t even cross your mind when coupling up. When a person comes along whose interests are the same, listens to you, and doesn’t mess up your Netflix recommendations, that’s good enough to call a relationship, right? Take a beat: not all relationships are created equal. Before you jump off the diving board and into the pool of coupledom, first look for and evaluate the five signs of a healthy relationship according to the experts: 1. Respect Okay we all want to be respected in our relationships but what exactly does that mean? According to clinical psychologist  Franklin A. Porter , Ph.D. real respect occurs when, “your partner understands and accepts that you are, first and foremost, a unique individual.” You have interests, needs, and life experiences that are separate from your partner’s. ...
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5 Reasons You're Not Having an Orgasm (And How to Make It More Likely)

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5 Reasons You're Not Having an Orgasm (And How to Make It More Likely)  Having an orgasm is often seen as the be-all, end-all point of sex—the wave of that oxytocin that floods your system when your orgasm feels damn good, after all—to the point where not having an orgasm can feel like a failure. For the record, it’s not. Sex is about a lot more than having an orgasm and there are many ways to  explore your pleasure  beyond beyond the big O. But if you’re consistently having difficulty achieving orgasm, it’s likely something is going on beneath the surface. Are you stressed about what your boss is thinking ahead of your annual review? Or are you too focused on trying to have an orgasm to the point that you can’t actually  relax enough to have one ? Maybe you’re just not getting any clitoral stimulation? We asked the experts for the most common reasons why women have trouble reaching orgasm—and for their tips on how to get there. 1. You can’t put...
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How to Have Good Sex, According to a Neuroscientist

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How to Have Good Sex, According to a Neuroscientist  Look anywhere in the media or on the streets of any major city (or suburb or small town for that matter) and we appear to be wholly focused on pleasure. Invitations to enjoy sex, food, sports, spas, exotic vacations, romantic escapes, and gamified apps abound, all promising a hit of relaxation, a high of excitement, an emotional or physical reprieve, and an answer to our aching need to destress. From this vantage point, an anthropologist visiting our planet might conclude that ours is a culture gluttonous for pleasure and sexually ravenous. We should be feeling tons of pleasure. But are we really that turned on? The answer, unfortunately, is no. What I observe daily in my clinical practice is that for all of this pleasure-seeking behavior, all this wanting of pleasure, very few of us seem able to fully experience the sensations or satisfaction we seek. Interspersed with these pleas or promises for pleasure is an equ...
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7 Reasons Why Love And Sex Go Together

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7 Reasons Why Love And Sex Go Together By Akshansh dubey Love and sex are two different things. However, there are very different opinions in society about how they connect. Some believe that the two are almost interchangeable. They assume that if sex is present, then love is as well. This can lead down some very rough roads. Others believe that the two aren't connected at all. They believe that you can easily have one without the other without any lasting effects. However, there are many reasons why love and sex go together, including the following: Love and Sexual Desire Come from The Same Place If you want to leave emotion and opinion out of the debate about if love and sex go together, science has proven that they are connected. Canadian researchers conducted a study in 2012 that found the part of your brain that handles emotions is where sexual desire comes from. Both emotional love and sexual desire are from the insular cortex. These findings lead people ...
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